Green with Envy: 5 Signs Your Friend is Jealous of You
Dec 03
It’s always a nice feeling to share your achievements with someone you’re close with. For the most part, your friends would be happy for you and motivate you to keep achieving your goals. But have you gotten a feeling recently that one of them isn’t? Well, that might not be just paranoia. Here, we’ve listed down some signs that one of your friends is actually envious of you.
- They Get Extremely Competitive
Although a little bit of competition can be a good thing, too much of it could very well be a sign that your friend is going on a jealous streak. Anything you do, they try to do ten times better. You decide to bring nachos and dip to a party, they decide to bring some homemade tacos. All the signs are there and are completely obvious. Some psychiatrists even say excessive competitiveness is not just a sign of jealousy, it could also be a hint that your friendship with that particular person is toxic.
- They Give Insincere Compliments
You’ve finally landed the job that you’ve always wanted, but all your friend tells you is “You must have some really good connections”. Rarely do you hear a sincere compliment, such as “I’m proud of you” or “Congrats bestie”. If their compliment is accompanied with an unpleasant attitude, then they might be implying how they really feel about you. So pay close attention to how your friend praises you, because if their compliments don’t feel genuine at all, then there’s a good chance that their friendship isn’t genuine either.
- They are Always Negative
You tell your friend about the promotion you got, but somehow, you’re greeted with negativity over your accomplishment. More often than not, people who are jealous tend to act this way. They’ll try to put you down by saying things like, “Well, it wasn’t like there was any other person up for the promotion anyway.” So watch out for any underlying cues of negativity and take that as a hint that you’re dealing with a jealous person.
- They Feel the Need to Upstage You
Aside from hitting you with negative comments for every achievement that you get, your jealous friend will likely transition into comments that upstage your accomplishments. Jealous friends often take what you have achieved, then talk about how they got something better.
- They Leave You Hanging
In need of a listening ear, but can’t seem to get in touch with that particular friend? Well, that could be another sign that you have one jealous friend in your circle. Apart from being discouraging of your goals, a jealous friend also have the tendency to leave you hanging when you need them the most.
Finding out that a particular friend is envious of you can be somewhat hurtful. Still, this doesn’t mean that you need to instantly cut your ties with them. Instead, bring the issue to light and start making moves that will help in both resolving the problem and improving your friendships.
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